Parenting (Part 2)

As most of us know, Happy is about to be a mother. Like most future mothers, the 1st thing she would worry about is how to raise her newborn. I personally don't think she has much to worry about. She tolerated with me, and I am about as childish as most newborn. Plus she is the most organized person I'd ever met. She is so well organized that she really scared me. I came from a very disorganized family, my father is organized, but my mother is very disorganized. My sisters and I, all inherited our disorganization from our mother.

Anyway, there was something else I wanted to talk about since the topic is about parenting. 7 years ago, a friend of mine Gregg invited me to have dinner with his former boss. I didn't understand why Gregg wanted me to go have dinner with his boss and his family at the time. Once I had dinner with them, I began to understand why. Back when Gregg was an exchange student in Japan, he taught English as a part-time job. His boss was his former student. After Gregg graduated from Ucla, his boss offered him a job working at a step-ladder company. Gregg knew nothing about step ladder, but his boss had no friends and Gregg was his only friend. The problem about his boss (Eizo), is that he is a very arrogant man. He treats everybody, except for Gregg like dirt. The company which Eizo ran monopolized the step-ladder business so he had no competition. When you run a business with no competition, it is very easy to become very arrogant since he has so much money he thinks he owns the world. It's like dictatorship and Eizo acted like a dictator. Eizo also had a son (Hidetoshi), he is very weird much like Hideki. He seemed kind of gay, and sometimes extremely isolated. Why did Gregg invited me to have dinner with Eizo and his family? I can see why. Everyday when Gregg has dinner with Eizo, all he does is remind his son Hidetoshi what a loser he is. Making comments such as, "Why can't you be more like Gregg? Why are you such a loser?" No wonder Hidetoshi is so isolated and messed up. When I joined for dinner, I listened to Eizo's remark towards his son. After he made that arrogant remark towards his son, I spoke to Gregg and made a wise-ass remark, "I never knew a child can raise himself!"

I mentioned to Gregg, "I wonder if he realize whose fault that is? A child can't be raised on his own." I thought to myself, "What an arrogant asshole!" Hidetoshi is who he is, because his father is not a good parent and he uses Gregg to replace Hidetoshi as a son Eizo wished he had. I think that is common with most millionaires or billionaires. Super wealthy people usually have no time to be with their kids, so they don't become good parents and they wonder why their kids turned out bad.

I like to say one thing. I am glad my father is not Eizo. I see this common with Japanese parents, comparing their kids with other kids and blame their own kids for being a failure not realizing whose fault that is.

Eizo is really into sexual harassment. I guess that should be another topic..

Eizo asked me if I can take classes for his son. He wanted me to enroll at Ucla for Hidetoshi. I asked what am I going to get out of this. He offered to pay me, but when I found out how much, I told him not to waste my time. I have better things to do than to take classes at Ucla for his son.

I guess this is where the movie "Spanglish" comes in. A control-freak mother, try to interfere with the maid's daughter, because her own daughter is not as beautiful as the maid's daughter. So she spoils her, because she is the daughter she wished she had. Eizo is by far worse, because he really makes his son feel like garbage.